Looking back over my posts for the past couple of weeks I’ve noticed that all the guys I’ve argued with regarding sexism or homophobia have all been white liberal dudes (mainly because I don’t waste time on the conservatives). I also realized I hadn’t talked about more than a fraction of similar encounters over this time period. There was the dude who managed to use the n word and make a joke about pedophilia in the same sentence and the dudes who decided to name their team “Save the Boobies”. Other encounters are listed below, again only a fraction of the discussions I’ve had recently.
HHL: Global warming sucks. So many people are going to get screwed over.
Dude 1: Yeah, but Australia is going to become an island, that is so cool.
D1: You’re always so negative; you need to look on the bright side of things.
HHL: Sometimes there isn’t a bright side.
D1: Name one time where there isn’t one.
D1: The rapist enjoys it.
HHL: I can’t believe you just said that.
D1: Well I had to say something.
For me this encounter encapsulates a lot of problems with the left. They care more about winning an argument than what it right or wrong. Dude 1 wasn’t done there.
D1: Fine, then the plus side is the rapists get caught.
HHL: No, no they really don’t. Conviction rates are in single figures everywhere I can think of.
D1: Well he could get caught and not convicted.
He used semantics to continue an argument where he was clearly in the wrong. The incredible ignorance of women’s issues is chilling. Men don’t care or know much about women’s oppression because they don’t have to.
HHL: I’m so fucking sick of the sexualisation of lesbians. Love, lust or whatever is so not for male consumption.
D2: I totally agree. But it’s HAWT.
HHL: But why is it viewed as hawt, why has it been sexualised?
D2: Because it’s hawt?
HHL: But it shouldn’t be. Two women making out isn’t intrinsically attractive to dudes. It has been sexualised through media imager-
D2: And it’s HAWT! Don’t worry HHL, I agree.
Again, the liberal white dude in question displays a total lack of understanding. This encounter represents the willingness of dudes on the left to agree with us, but unwillingness to change their habits.
In summary, and taking into consideration my previous posts, these are the problems within the liberal left and part of the reason why feminists don’t trust so called progressives. These issues don’t happen in isolation in the student community, these trends hold for liberal blogs. They must be addressed for the left to receive the trust and support of feminists.
1. Use of religion (or in rare cases their lack thereof) to act as shield against homophobic or sexist views.
2. Unwillingness to change their actions to minimize women’s oppression.
3. Caring more about winning an argument than about what’s actually true.
4. The blind belief that things will get better.
5. Use of relativism to excuse their bigotry (“We’re not as bad as men in the Middle East, stop picking on us!”)
6. Ignorance of issues that affect women.