In my blog archives you can find several references to homophobia, racism and sexism. You won’t find much about trans issues or transphobia. This is because I’m too afraid that I’ll screw up, but in not writing about these issues I’ve created a silence that really shouldn’t be there.
I’m a radical feminist. To some, that is immediately synonymous with transphobic. I am transphobic in the same way that I’m racist, classist, abelist, sizeist, sexist, homophobic and ageist. When we lived in a closed system like patriarchy, we inevitably absorb some of its values and it takes our entire lives to deconstruct them. Just like some sex-positive feminists disappoint with their individualism and inability to look at the consequences of their actions, so do some radical feminists in their transphobia.
Simply put, gender is a social construct that screws everyone up. The way trans people deal with gender is valid.
Many cis^feminists see trans women as women who can pass for men (in the same way some people of colour can pass as white). Other cis^feminists see trans women as men who pretend to be women (treating them as they’d treat white people who don blackface). Because of this feminists are talking past one another without actually communicating. We need to resolve this issue to make feminist spaces safe spaces, because when it gets down to it, this isn’t about me or other cis^ radical feminists. It is about trans people who are disproportionally assaulted, who are discriminated against in the workforce, it is about trans women who are excluded from feminism when feminism is for ALL women. It about the women who are dying.
(^by cis all I mean is not trans, I don’t mean behaviour in line with assigned gender)
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